I am a Girl, is it a mistake? No, not at all. Its a blessing. So, why does the Indian Society still consider a girl child as a curse? Do you have any answer to it? No you don't because you too are a part of this society and follow its norm and support them.
The major problem is, the society still consider Woman as the weeker sex. If i comment on the male population about their potency then? It wil hurt you right? I know, it hurts us also, we the Women of the country, when we are considered as a black dot on the society.
People play with our lives, but till when? No more. You had your share of fun, treating us as your slave but now things have changed. Let me give you my own example.
Like every girls dream, I too wanted to have a beautiful wedding. Through a Matrimonial Site, my parents had selected a boy for me, belonging to a decent Army family. Everything was settled. The Wedding date, the ceremonies, the bridal wear, the jewelleries and all that a Bride needs.
Now let me give you a brief description of the boy and his family. He is a Merchant Naval officer, his father was a Colonel, his mother is a teacher and his brother is a Major in the Indian Army. Now you can yourself predict about the family. But, predictions are not always correct. We even thought that the family is well educated and well settled and have their own lavish home in a posh area of Lucknow.
It was November, 17, 2011; I met the boy and his family and liked eachother and said yes for the wedding. Everything appeared like a dream coming true. We came back home and a new phase in my life began. I had a new family, phone calls from my Fiance, my new mom, and yes my brother-in-law. The happy moments for me and my mom and dad. On January 20, 2012; my Fiance came to our hometown, Chandigarh with his mother and we planned for a small ceremony with relatives in the evening.
I was dressed like a bride, not that shimmers but yes with all the curly hair, make-up, bangles. It was a nice get together with the exchange of gifts ofcourse, as it is mandatory in the big Indian weddings. So, finally everything went smoothly and my Fiance went back to his home town with his mother after a day. It was the beginning of the celebration, as it was afterall the first wedding in both the families. An environment of cheers and happiness.
On February 1, 2012 my parents went to Lucknow to book the venue for my wedding and to discuss the procedures with my mother-in-law, as it is always meant to be in the Indian families, the boy's mother 'Sasu maa' is given importance. Isn't it all shit!!
Then came the new face of that sweet darling lady, who turned out to be a witch rather a bitch....
Out of all the discussions, she demanded dowry from my Dad. Which he couldn't take it and snubbed her at the very moment. My Dad still agreed to it, he didn't have a problem, but I had. A Father always dream about his baby doll's wedding, and he can do anything to make it sucessful and happier for his daughter. My Dad did the same for me. But, why should i agree to all the wrong that was happening. I made myself strong and said my words. A big 'NO' for the wedding. I called off 'My Wedding'.
I know how my parents were from within, though my Dad had no problem but yes he still had in his mind, what if that wicked lady demands more during the departure of 'Barat'. My parents were broken from within, but didn't show me. They were in agony. To be practical, I am well edified, settled with a good job in my hand and yes a sucessful female. Why should i agree to such obnoxious demands from people who are unaware of such abomination .
To add more masala to it if you want, Why does the Indian society calls it a ‘Pity’ for the girl and her family if she has a broken Wedding? Why don’t they consider this matter just like a broken leg which can be cured in a gap of time? Why our society is still living in the disillusioned world of male dominancy?
Females are too well educated and refined. People thinking about demanding dowry needs to learn a lesson on this subject because all the educated cream of the Indian society is still illiterate on this major issue, as they continue to pay up with a smile. It’s the norm, its tradition, they say.
I want all the young girls to stand up and fight for wrong snakes; I fought for myself and my family. If we’ll still keep shut and think about the society, we are the one who will suffer at last. Society will not come for our rescue, only our father and mother will be standing outside the gate of our in-laws just to ensure that their daughter is safe, she is not beaten up!!
Books can be written about dowry; a blog is simply a way to molten this major issue. Let’s wake up again and fight for this ‘deadly disease’ and make this journey towards light, never to be fused…